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It's not the girl it's the game plan.
The strategy stays the same. Screen out the uninterested girls quickly. Escalate fast. Drag her away. It's so simple. But sometimes we unnecessarily complicate things. What do I do if she is being difficult? What can I say if she has a boyfriend. What is the hidden secret for getting the 10's?
For every cute girl with a boyfriend that is giving you a hard time, there are ten others just as cute who don't have a boyfriend who would love to be hanging out with you. For every ONE frumpy girl that won't let you kiss her there are three other really fun girls who gladly will. Why spend valuable time trying to change women with bad attitudes, rigid rules and weird hangups. As Paul Janka said "difficult women remain difficult".
Guys always ask - what is the secret technique for getting the really hot women. There is no secret technique. You do the exact same things. The only difference is you may be more intimidated to do them because you think she is so beautiful. But there is really nothing special you need to do. You still hold her gaze. You still get close quickly. You still grab her hand and don't let go. You still escalate the vibe, tap into sexual tension and drag her away when you know it's mutually on. That is always the game plan.
You're hanging out in a trendy neighborhood in NYC. You still screen out the time wasters. You are on vacation in Italy. You still escalate quickly. She is a high-powered attorney and graduated from Yale. You still drag her off. All of these labels like "exotic dancer" , "the girl of my dreams" , "it's different because she is _____" just confuses guys. There is nothing different you need to do.
One of the best things I learned from my friend Sleazy is that "some nights it's zero". And what that quote means to me is that you stick to what works and you don't change your strategy for every single girl. Be patient, stick to the plan and you will see results. I would rather have a night where nothing amazing happens than run around talking to everyone, waiting hours to make a move and trying to convince women with boyfriends or hangups about sex to go home with me.
No thanks. I'd rather stick to the game plan.
A game plan that has been proven to work.
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Even though I distance myself drastically from the mainstream seduction community, it provided me with two key insights early on, which changed my “game” --- and my life --- forever. One was that you could simply go out and talk to girls and didn’t need to wait for any kind of chance encounter or divine intervention. Instead, you could make your own luck. The other key insight was much more specific. It was the step from “I can make my own luck” to “This is how I make my own luck!” I have done this by being more systematic about my approaches. Sure, some people advocate doing “warmup sets”, but imagine this situation: You are trying to entertain a group of girls you don’t feel attracted to and are practicing the “delivery of your routines”. Meanwhile, you notice that at the far end of a bar a really attractive girl orders a drink --- and before you can “eject from your set”, some other guy has made a move already. She smiles as she sees him, giggles, now it’s one minute later and they are making out…
No, you don’t want to be the guy that goes around providing free entertainment to girls that wouldn’t even get him hard! There are much better role models available than that. Well, even though mASF has gone down a cliff in recent months, this site still provides great value in some of the archives of the ancient posters, guys such as MrSex4uNYC. (No, as many great seducers, he doesn’t post there anymore.) In one of his articles, he wrote that before he does his first approach, he mentally ranks the girls in his head and then starts with the most attractive, working his way down to the bottom of the list. Admittedly, this is a relatively systematic or maybe even robotic approach, but it is a sound game plan. Obviously, if you have approached every attractive girl in the club but still didn’t get anywhere, you do what doesn’t seem obvious to many guys: you cut your losses and go to another venue. The loser strategy is --- similarly to the guy doing “warmup sets” --- to stay in the venue and approach girls that don’t even turn you on, or waiting for hot girls to show up.
This now leads to the quote by Sixty above: “On some nights the number is zero.” The full context of this statement is that I don’t follow a rigid structure a la, “approach x girls a night”, but simply girls I feel drawn towards, no matter how many there are around. In a small venue, on an off-night, the number might indeed be zero. On the other hand, in a big crowded venue, it could be several dozen. A reasonable “game plan” takes those factors also into account. This doesn’t mean that you can’t go to a dive bar and have a beer, but if your goal is to get laid, you better have a different approach. Chose your venue, keep your game plan in mind, and you stick to it!
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