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One of the main aspects Sixty teaches in seduction is that guys are afraid of sexual tension and break it prematurely because they cannot handle it. But what if you are able to handle its pressure? In this case, you have two options to utilise sexual tension for the process of seduction. One is to draw it out and completely captivate her attention. The other is to strike hard and fast as soon as you realise that she is horny enough to proceed further. Cosy stands for the former, whereas I am infamous for the latter. Both approaches have distinct advantages and disadvantages.
Maintaining a stable level of sexual tension is no small feat. To a beginner it can feel like a balancing on a tightrope. In fact, the difficulty of successfully maintaining sexual tension over a longer stretch of time can itself be very gratifying, not unlike a physical activity such as juggling, or playing those old school arcade video games that seemingly go on forever.
Two dangers are inherent, though. First, if you fail to maintain sexual tension, she may just get bored and leave. The obvious cure is to escalate ever so slightly, and then subtly retreat: one step forward, one step back. However, if you escalate too much and follow the community adage of two steps forward, one step back, and then suddenly decide to “play with sexual tension” and, for instance, deny her a kiss three times in a row, she may just get fed up with you and leave. Nobody likes the feeling of being played with. In this respect the girl is not much different from you.
If truly fast escalation is what you are after -- I am talking about seducing girls literally within minutes --, then maintaining sexual tension for an unordinary stretch of time is counterproductive. This kind of game is all about escalating quickly, and once you realise that she is ready to got, you don’t maintain the same level of sexual tension. Instead, you make one bold move and simply lead her off to wherever you feel like.
In terms of sex, both ways of approaching sexual tension lead to different results. If you sweep the girl off her feet in a time-span your average community guy hasn’t even finished his “opener”, you are in for very intense moments of something I would not call “love-making.” I have seen girls getting so horny that literally any kind of release was sufficient for an orgasm. In one case I did not even have to touch the girl to give her her first of many orgasms.
On the other hand, if you draw out sexual tension and slowly draw her in, the actual act has a tendency to unfold rather slowly as well. This is no surprise since the girl follows your lead anyway. Once you have learnt how to properly use sexual tension, the decision how to use it should depend on nothing but your personal preferences. There is no right or wrong, but only a question of what feels right for you.
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I think the mindset that you NEED to do "special" things to create sexual tension is, well...very needy.
Given the recent popularity surrounding the concept of tension I can already start imagining what commercial products will be coming out soon. Maybe something like "The 25 Frames You Absolutely Must Install to Create Sexual Tension".
An Automatic Connection
The truth is on some level sexual tension between a man and a woman exists naturally. I'm sure you've noticed it's usually lurking just beneath the surface of even your most polite conversations with women.In most cases there is really nothing special you need to say (verbally) or do (physically). Sometimes attracting a woman can be as simple as just tapping into the tension that is already there.
Be Still
One way you can tap into this natural tension is by being comfortable with silence. Be still. Sexual tension always seems to reveal itself during the short pauses. Or in an extended gaze. A sexual connection forms naturally when you are simply enjoying the woman in front of you (ie. listening) instead of focusing on talking and entertaining.
Don't over-complicate the concept of sexual tension by viewing it as something you NEED to create. Instead think of sexual tension as something that is always there, just waiting to be discovered. And if you can keep quiet for a few seconds you may just find it.
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Every woman has a sexual side. A side invulnerable to the nagging details thought to be in the way of sex. Truth is, when that devilish smile comes upon us, as we feel that rush, that is seeing our future right infront of us, when we know that there is nothing standing inbetween us and our goals, we know that it takes but only a caress to make that future happen and we don't care in the slightest about details because we see an opportunity to act. It is this that is at the heart of sexuality, and this is why little details don't matter in the face of it all.
This is where most people go wrong.
Most consider logical things, thinking them a necessity, or that they are relevant when it comes to sex. However, if little details matter, then its likely you aren't being sexual at all.
Sex exists alone, one woman, and one man.. breathing in syncronicity, hearts beating, and heat filling the air. The only thing in those moments, is feelings. A flood of all those satiating desires filling you both. Hungerous desires being filled by further and further thirsts that quench the soul.
When it comes to sex, if you are worried about little logical things, you are not being sexual. And being sexual, can grant you with not only more satisfaction, but more freedom, effortlessness, and passionate drive. That girl you thought would satisfy your ego will fade into the distance as you realise the simple pleasure of this girl right infront of you. You'll be free, of that irrational side of yourself, that 'just' wants to get laid under xyz conditions just cuz it likes the sound of it. You'll be more suited to finding what you want in regards to sex.
If you draw out an interaction by not achieving goals set before hand. You can explore things that are free from all the little niggles of day to day. You can like a skydiver.. or a scuba diver.. just feel freed.
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An important component to discovering and maintaining sexual tension is to slow down. A common mistake, especially amongst approach machines, is to talk at a fast pace, trying to cram as much material in, and run through their entire "stack". Not only does this eliminate the sense of spontaneity in the interaction, is sucks out all the silences, pauses, opportunities for suggestive looks that exposes the sexual tension between an approacher and a girl.
A common phenomenon in failed seductions is for the interaction to initially go extremely well, perhaps even hitting an It's On Moment, but then to suddenly run out of steam. One cause of this is the guy getting stuck in his head about the next move to do, and desperately making some kind of hail mary play. That hesitation and nervousness exposes a neediness that'll kill tension in an interaction. There is a difference between not doing anything because you're afraid to, and holding back because you feel like it: most girls can sense the difference and will respond accordingly.
An inflection point in an interaction from which things will go from bad to worse is often when a guy goes into "chase mode", that is to constantly be trying different things in order to win the girl over, or bust past escalation resistance. Such actions go against the natural back and forth of a seduction, as well as removes all the challenge from the interaction. "Chase mode" often occurs when a guy lets his ego get ahead of his instincts.
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