What Women Want from Their men

If you’re asking, “What do women really want?” the answer is simple.  Women really want a man who is self confident. Now, we said self-confident. We didn’t say arrogant, obnoxious, filled with his own self-importance, or so narcissistic that he thinks he’s more special than any of the ordinary people of this world. 

A man who is self-confident believes that he has the strength to tackle adversity, has or can learn the skills to make a happy and successful life for himself and his family, and believes so strongly in himself that he isn’t threatened by an equally strong and self-confident woman. That is what women really want. 

To achieve this self-confidence that women really want from their man, doesn’t mean that you turn into macho man. You don’t have to develop the physique of Arnold Schwarzenegger or the swagger of John Wayne. You can even have and show some fear, some vulnerability and even an occasional
self-doubt and still exude confidence.

The kind of self confidence that women really want from their man is the kind that says, “I know I can most likely get through this okay, and I’m sure going to try.” Women don’t really need you to be a rah-rah cheerleader every moment of every day. They just need you to show that when the chips are down you can take it and still be there for themselves and you both.

Self-confidence isn’t as easy to achieve for men as it was before, and perhaps that is why women really want to see it so much more now. In past centuries, survival was dependent on
self-confidence. Men had to know they could kill the game for their family’s food, could outshoot the villain at the castle gate, and could bring in a crop to feed their family through the winter. That kind of self-confidence for men was a given. Women didn’t think in terms of really wanting that kind of man. A man that survived very far into adulthood during turbulent times such as the Middle Ages and the early Wild West days of the United States’ development obviously had confidence or he wouldn’t be alive.
What women could say they really wanted then was a provider, a fighter, a great shot, and an accomplished sharpshooter.

Today’s man doesn’t need to have confidence in his pugilistic skills, his marksmanship, and he doesn’t even need to provide for the entire family in most cases. So for some they’ve lost track of where their self-confidence is coming from. This makes women want to see that self-confidence even more – because it’s not as obvious or abundant as it once had to be.

In short, what women really want is a man who is willing, even though he has fears, to stand up and face the trials and tribulations of each new tough day, and who is strong enough to allow her to be strong without fear of his resentment of her strength.